Episode 229

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12th Mar 2026

"Held In The Body: Breaking Trauma Bonds, Healing Codependency, & Restoring Nervous System Safety."1

"The body keeps the score." - Bessel Van Der Kolk

"Trauma is not what happens to you; It is what happens inside you as a result of what happens to you." - Gabor Mate

"Trauma is not in the event itself. Trauma resides in the nervous system." - Peter A. Levine.

Grace dives deep into a conversation with Dr. Nima Rahmany, a chiropractor and life coach about trauma and the nervous system.

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Key Takeaways:

  1. Trauma isn't just psychological- it's physiological: Trauma lives in the nervous system. It shows up as chronic tension, pain, fatigue, digestive issues and sleep disruption.
  2. Co-dependency is often a fawn response - People pleasing and over-giving are commonly trauma adaptations. It develop as strategies to maintain safety, avoid abandonment or prevent conflict.
  3. Trauma bonds are nervous system attachment - Push-pull dynamic in unhealthy relationships is not weakness- it's a dysregulated attachment pattern rooted in survival response. The body confuses intensity with intimacy.
  4. Chronic Emotional Stress impacts physical health - Long term codependency and relational stress can contribute to inflammation, immune strain, digestive issues, and nervous system dysregulation. The body keeps the score.
  5. Boundaries feel uncomfortable before they feel safe: An individual who people-pleased for years starts setting boundaries, the nervous system may react with guilt and anxiety. That discomfort is often a sign of growth.
  6. The body reveals when you're abandoning yourself: Tight chest, shallow breath, stomach knots, shoulder tension. These are often signals that boundaries are being crossed - internally or externally.
  7. Healing requires nervous system regulation: Mindfulness, breath-work, spinal alignment and somatic awareness help restore safety in the body. When the body feels safe, relational choices change.
  8. Secure connection feels calm- not chaotic: Healthy love is regulated, steady, and grounded. It may feel unfamiliar at first if someone is used to intensify-based attachment.
  9. Awareness is the first break in the cycle: Recognising push-pull dynamics, over-functioning, or emotional enmeshment is the beginning of transformation.
  10. You can rewire relational patterns: With intentional body-based healing, mindfulness, and compassionate self-awareness, it is possible to move from survival-based attachment to secure, embodied connection.
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Rising Above Shadows Of Abuse
Society & Culture/Abuse
Rising Above Shadows Of Abuse Show with Grace Ovba, is about the topical issues of abuse prevalent in our society and culture. The impact on lives and possible reformation strategies. The show portrays real life stories of exceptional valiant women, who suffered pain, shame, trauma and guilt. Some of these individuals, used the tools of healing, forgiveness and compassion to serve as a positive propellant to actualising their dreams and breaking barriers in their various fields of human endeavours.
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"Abuse changes your life... Fight back and change the life of your abusers by breaking your silence on abuse" - Patty Rase Hopson
''So many people suffer abuse and suffer alone'' -Pamela Stephenson
''To those who abuse: The sin is yours, the crime is yours and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victim only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest.'' - Flora Jessop
#I take back my power
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#Resilience
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ABOUT THE HOST - GRACE OVBA
Grace is a survivor of Domestic Violence, who is passionate about using her experiences to pave the way for other victims who are stuck in any form of abusive situations. She is a transformational coach, mentor, author, inspirational speaker and mother. She has a background in education, law and psychotherapy. She's on a mission to bring healing and wholeness to bruised and broken women.
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Grace is a Survivor of Domestic Violence, who is passionate about using her own experiences to pave the way for other abusive victims who are stuck in any form of abusive situations. She is a mentor, transformational coach, author, inspirational speaker and mother. She has a background in education, law and psychotherapy. She is on a mission to bring healing and wholeness to broken and bruised women. She is an accredited member of the British Association For Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the Law society United Kingdom.